Contacting Wife’s AP spouse??
New here and first post. So it’s been roughly 8 months since I was able to get my wife to admit to her affair. Let me tell you the struggle has been something real. Life has been completely flipped upside down for me. I keep telling myself to stay for the kids. Every single day since I have questioned if I should get in contact with her APs spouse. I fully believe they have every right to know who they are lying in bed next to every night and should have a choice whether that’s someone they want to keep around in their life. My struggle everyday is whether or not I should stay in my relationship with my wife, as of right now it’s fully about my kids and financial reasoning. Who knows maybe one day the on going feelings of hatred towards my wife will go away for everyone’s well being. I hope I really start seeing more from my wife as in that this was a complete mistake that will forever stain our relationship and what she will do to show me shes fully committed again and will do whatever it takes to build back was she broke for her own selfish reasons. As for now I’m really torn about letting the AP spouse know and would love some feedback as to what others have done or their thoughts on delivering such information.
8 comments posted: Thursday, July 23rd, 2026
